Friday, November 18, 2011

Fertiles: making me eat my words, again and again

Who are these Fertiles - showing care and compassion on a grand scale?  My local Fertiles really showed their true colors last night.

I saw email chains flying around setting up dinners for my family once the baby arrives. Do I have any preferences, aversions, dietary restrictions? What about Toddlerina? What does she eat?  Would I like to consider a Monday, Wednesday, Friday schedule to stretch it out - everyone will make large meals to allow for leftovers.

Who are these people?  How do these Fertiles have the hearts of an IF veteran?  I guess babies can bring out the best in everyone.

I got a call from another neighbor.  Her daughter is our occasional sitter.  She has a chronic illness that can keep her out of school for weeks at a time.  It is not life threatening and she is expected to outgrow it.  Her daughter recently had a bout with it and is on the mend.

She had made something for the baby at school.  Wouldn't I come down and get it?

I head out the door - half in clothes, half in jammies (it was 730pm after all).  I am wearing The Nighttime Bra, the one without the flying buttresses.

Low riders and jammies, I walk into a surprise neighborhood baby shower.

It was great.  Everyone swapping stories, trying to scare the new Momma to be then telling tear jerker tales of motherhood.

I would give anything in the world to have everyone here beside me, battle over and war won.  Every day I offer up my own thanks, then your names are right behind - asking to take you along too. 

It looks dippy in print, but I wanted you to know.
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17 comments:

  1. AnonymousNovember 18, 2011 at 9:38 AM

    Incredibly sweet.

    Love you. Thinking of you every day wondering when the new one will arrive.

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  2. LuluNovember 18, 2011 at 9:47 AM

    So sweet. You deserve all of this happiness.

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  3. siennaNovember 18, 2011 at 10:23 AM

    You are the best. Thinking of others when you have so much going on. I can't for the bebe to arrive!

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  4. My VegasNovember 18, 2011 at 11:26 AM

    love to you!!!

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  5. Mrs. MisfitsNovember 18, 2011 at 12:33 PM

    This made my day. Un-wonderbra and all. There is so much to celebrate with this that I am thrilled that people are pitching in. Plus, who are you sweet woman that you must keep us all in that heart of yours. Too sweet, indeed!

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  6. AnonymousNovember 18, 2011 at 1:22 PM

    Wish I could have seen a photo of you running out the door...sooo sweet!!

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  7. Brave IVF GirlNovember 18, 2011 at 4:14 PM

    Love it. Glad they're taking care of you. :)

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  8. JBNovember 18, 2011 at 4:26 PM

    This is the best thing I've read or heard all day. So glad it happened to you!

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  9. ASPNovember 18, 2011 at 5:40 PM

    I'm pissed I wasn't invited! ;) You so deserve this, R. Won't be long now! Can't wait!

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  10. StacieNovember 18, 2011 at 5:41 PM

    If I didn't know it before, the love that those around you are showering you in is a true testament to what an amazing person you are. :-) I am so happy for all of the celebration you have (and are) receiving!

    Much love and hugs!

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  11. siennaNovember 19, 2011 at 5:38 AM

    Lesson learned : never leave the house without proper bra and clothing, even if you are just going down the street :o) oh, the fertiles in your life sound smart ... Oh so smart, bc they obviously think highly of you to o such a nice thing. And meals for your family once #2 comes! I thought that kinda thing only happened in the movies! I hope you are getting TONS of R&R right now. Xoxo

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  12. rebeccaNovember 19, 2011 at 1:38 PM

    Awe, this just makes my heart happy:)

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  13. AugustaNovember 19, 2011 at 4:47 PM

    thank you, honey. And, WOW, what a wonderful circle of women you have around you. You are certainly reaping what you sow, dear woman. You give so much in this community. I suspect that is your policy all around. So glad that you are being honoured and supported by those physically around you.
    Warm hugs to you, beautiful.

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  14. LifeslurperNovember 20, 2011 at 1:47 AM

    Hey Roc!

    Wow...resisting urge to say 'that has gone quickly!' last time I did that in blogland, I got into a bit of trouble...Anyway, so proud of the work you have done in the advancement of Year of the Take Home Baby. Brilliant blardy work, I say!

    Is there a chance that all the food, baby showers, and general all-round care has nothing to do with demarcation lines between infertile people and the rest of the known universe and more to do with Roc simply being someone that people are drawn to because of her dear, kind sweet nature? Eh?

    I promise you, if I gave birth to a take home baby or quintuplets I could not pay neighbours or work colleagues enough to show up to any function in my honour. These celebrations are for YOU. People like you, and it doesn't matter if they can make babies or not. It is YOU that makes people want to do these things.

    Looking forward to every update, Roc!

    LS x

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  15. AnonymousNovember 20, 2011 at 4:45 AM

    I've read this three times now trying to comment. I still can't get to the end without crying happy tears over the sweetness of it all. There is so much love out there for your family. I just wish there was some way we could have a giant internet shower for you too!

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  16. bunnyNovember 21, 2011 at 6:46 AM

    Oh those pesky fertiles! Always turning out to just be regular *people*. People who love you because you are so lovable. Totally sweet. Now if they'd just chosen a time when you weren't in your jammies...

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  17. JBNovember 25, 2011 at 8:24 AM

    I think the gadget you are looking for is the itzbeen. They have them at the big box baby stores and amazon. If you're a smart phone kind of lady, there are also sweet apps for free or cheap (I had an iPhone app that let me track feedings, diapers, naps, doctor's appointments and vaccinations, weights and percentiles, baths, you name it -- an OCD dream).

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