Monday, November 18, 2013

Considering invasive testing

We got the call that we are at increased chances of our baby having Down Syndrome or Trisomy 18.

Our original ratios for my age were 1/62, changed to 1/6 for Down Syndrome.  It was 1/115, changed to 1/27 for Trisomy 18.

Down Sydrome.  Not Down's Syndrome.  We can do this.

Trisomy 18.  Failure to thrive.  I don't know if I can go here.

Last time I did this, I lost 2 jobs.  Long term disability.  Lost the fucking plot.  I don't know how I could carry but I don't know how I could not carry either.

Considering CVS.
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23 comments:

  1. KathrynNovember 18, 2013 at 1:19 PM

    Roccie - I did CVS. It wasn't bad. I was not sure what I would do, but I just wanted to know. I highly recommend. Thinking of you. K

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  2. katherineNovember 18, 2013 at 1:40 PM

    Oh no, I am so so sorry you are dealing with this, and I so feel for you...
    I have gone through a similar mindfuck -- twice. In the end I did do the invasive testing - and it was not normal, but not in ways i was expecting: sex chromosome abnormalities can also sometimes produce abnormal screenings. Yet the complications they produce are much more mild. In the end, i am glad I tested, because that meant i could read up on the possible complications and intervene early. If you are worried about the "invasive" part of testing, would you consider doing the new blood tests (like "harmony")? Best of luck to you - i am constantly thinking about you and sending you the warmest thoughts...

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  3. rebeccaNovember 18, 2013 at 1:44 PM

    Ugh, so sorry!!! I was just talking with my OB about setting up first trimester screening and Nick and I were discussing what will we do if something does come back abnormal....SO impossibly hard and also so very personal. Sending thoughts your way and hope you find the strength you need and clarity towards a specific decision

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  4. AnonymousNovember 18, 2013 at 2:53 PM

    I am sorry that you are dealing with this. I am sure you guys will make the right decision for you. To echo katherine, have you considered the blood tests like MaterniT21? Thinking of you!

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  5. AnonymousNovember 18, 2013 at 3:25 PM

    ughh, That is stressful. I did an amnio with P. It sucked but turned out all was ok. Good luck, Nicole

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  6. AnonymousNovember 18, 2013 at 3:27 PM

    One more thing, my friend got an odds of 1/4 for down syndrome, she did CVS and no DS. ~Nicole

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  7. CWritesNovember 18, 2013 at 3:31 PM

    Wish you might have been spared this. Still persisting in prayer and hoping for the best and some peaceful tinge to the gut wrenching worry.

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  8. LibbyNovember 18, 2013 at 3:49 PM

    Ugh :( Why does this all have to be so scary? I'll be hoping that all is well. I have my nuchal fold scan this week and am anxious because I don't know much about our donated embryo's health history. I've been looking into the MaterniT21 just in case. Hang in there...it could still be ok.

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  9. AnonymousNovember 18, 2013 at 3:50 PM

    What about MaterniT21? Is it available to you? I felt very confident that it was correct when I read the report when we did it. Pricey but the company cuts down the out of pocket for self pay.

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  10. AnonymousNovember 18, 2013 at 4:01 PM

    Def do Mat 21. Can do as early as 20 weeks. If that's positive (99 % accuracy) then consider amnio/cvs.

    FYI before Mat 21 was available the 1st tri screen gave1/6 Down risk for our 1st baby. Amnio = normal. For 2nd baby we skipped 1st tri screen and did only Mat21.

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  11. gwinneNovember 18, 2013 at 5:07 PM

    Ah, Roccie. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Yeah, sounds like further testing is warranted.

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  12. AnonymousNovember 18, 2013 at 5:44 PM

    Oh no. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. No advice, but thinking of you.

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  13. StacieNovember 18, 2013 at 5:59 PM

    Many, many hugs. One day at a time, my friend.

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  14. DoraNovember 18, 2013 at 7:25 PM

    Abiding with you. Hoping for the best. xo

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  15. kNovember 18, 2013 at 9:56 PM

    I love you. I'm here. <3 <3 <3

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  16. dspenceNovember 19, 2013 at 4:25 AM

    Praying for health and direction.

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  17. AugustaNovember 19, 2013 at 6:42 AM

    Well, that's not the news I was hoping you would get. But I know you make really good, thoughtful decisions, dear woman, and this is what you'll do in this case. It just sucks that you even have to consider more invasive procedures. It's never easy, is it.
    Sending warm, supportive thoughts to you.

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  18. R.November 19, 2013 at 7:42 AM

    Oh Roccie, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know you will make the right decision for your family. Sending you strength and hand holding.

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  19. SarahNovember 19, 2013 at 8:03 AM

    You are on my heart. xo

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  20. SilverNovember 19, 2013 at 12:19 PM

    Aw cr*p! Not what you need! I know someone who had low risk on the bloods and had a baby with DS and someone who got high risk results and did CVS and was all clear - it's such a tough call. Just crossing everything that the decision becomes clear for you.

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  21. AnonymousJanuary 23, 2014 at 5:09 AM

    Ok I know this isn't a real comment but I'm wondering and hoping that all is well with you and #3.

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  22. AnonymousJanuary 23, 2014 at 5:10 AM

    Okay I know this isn't the right place to do this but I'm seriously wondering how you are doing and how all is going. Thinking of you.

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