Things went well today at the fertility shop. We are confirmed for our FET on Tuesday next week. Whoa. Lining is a 10 and my estrogen jumped by 2000+, not surprising considering my patchwork belly of stickers and vaginal cookies.
I am really wavering on the number to transfer. I think I get this way every time as the actual transfer date approaches. We transferred one with the fresh cycle. Look where that got us. Success rates are lower with frozen, about a 50-50 shot.
I thought Large Fertility Operation did vitrification. I read over at Lisa's house that CCRM does it and boasts almost as high as a success rate as fresh with FET via vitrification. Perhaps LFO does not have the same freezing process. The rates are lower.
Sigh. Transferring two doesn't increase my chance at success by any percentage. You all know how those stats work.
Why is it so tempting?
I said this to Rocco and he told me he was feeling the same. We always wanted three kids... but we picked that number when we were young and didn't know any better. Hell, we didn't even know each other. Haven't I learned by now life is not a damn thing like you planned?
We filled out the forms for the FET back in December. We opted for one embryo. Maybe it is good we did the process then, before it became so emotional.
My acupuncturist keeps telling me to be still and listen. I will know the right choice. Eek.
Tuesday is just around the corner. One embryo. Two embryos. That's a tough decision. But your therapuncturist has a point. You will make a decision and it will be the best one you can make at that moment. And that, my dear, is plenty good enough. Peace be with you as you make this decision and as you prepare the homecoming party for the embryo(s).
ReplyDeleteI couldn't tell you what to decide...just know that I am hopeful that this FET will work. ;)
ReplyDeleteI love your acupuncturist. Can you send her my way? You'll know. Come Tuesday you'll know.
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That is a hard one Roccie, I saw two but I'm greedy like that. You will be pregnant in less than a week. Woah.
ReplyDeleteI don't know, Rocc. K says "you'll know" above, but then follows her comment with *3* hearts. I think she's trying to subliminally nudge you toward transferring three...
ReplyDeleteOf all the things about IF, the number of embryos to transfer is the HARDEST decision to date. And you know I am a huge supporter of eSET but that still doesn't make the decision any easier. If your clinic does do slow freeze, then I think I'd be tempted to transfer more than one at FET. I think right now you have to guage how much more of this can you take if you get another BFN...what's worse a BFN or pg with twins? High order multiples...we won't even go there as the chances are small. But that would be how I would guage things. And TUESDAY...wow! I'll be doing my pg rain dance for you that day. Hang tight...
ReplyDeleteRoccie baby, you're almost there. I am keeping you in my thoughts girl... as for 1 or 2? tough decision. We opted for one because our dr felt that the additional risks of a twin pregnancy weren't worth it in our case. but thats our case, not yours. I believe in what your acupuncturist says, you'll know when the time comes. I always said I'd transfer 2 and then we got there, made the exact opposite decision, transferred one and felt good about it from day 1.
ReplyDeleteyou're going to rock this girl. Every ounce of my positive energy is going to be floating around you on Tuesday. xoxoxo
Hey...you're just a few days behind me! I've got a day 5 transfer tomorrow. I have a recent post about the one or two question. And even though I have absolutely no desire or intent to raise twins, my priority is doing everything in my power to make this cycle work. But obviously everyone has different concerns. FWIW, my RE is recommending eSET.
ReplyDeleteI say pack em' in.
ReplyDeleteI hope this is it for you, I want to move you to expecting on my blog. Then my work will be done.
wishing you the very best of luck with this FET!!!!!
ReplyDeleteOk girlie. Almost there! On Tuesday, I shall be concentrating my energies toward you and a positive outcome for this FET. Just breathe. We are all collectively rallying on your behalf, can ya feel it? :) Wishing you & Rocco all the best.
ReplyDeleteOH MAH LAWD, Tuesday is so soon! I forget what you've got in the freezer, which I imagine might make a difference... I suppose it's good to have something to focus your thinking on--I'm hoping the one or two debate will drown out other anxious thoughts...
ReplyDeletePleasepleaseplease let this coin toss go your way!
I hope that when the time comes, the decision is easy. Last time our choice was made easy when one embryo was much better than the others - our wee boy was a perfect 12-cell embryo at day 3, while the others were slightly less perfect and 8/9 cells. Much luck with it, whatever you decide - will be crossing things for you!
ReplyDeleteGiiiiiiirl, Tuesday! Here you go, yo. I'm going to be sending so many positive vibes up for you. For R and I, we always went with 2. Just seemed like a doable number whatever the outcome may have been, which we know how that all worked out, but that's besides the point. These were the questions we asked and agreed 2 would work: Would we be happy with twins? Did I think my body could handle it? Financially? Emotionally? Stuff like that. I'm not sure about the stats as far as transferring more embies goes (I'm sure I knew those numbers back in the day ;), but I always felt like it increased our chances. It's a mental thing, I think. Anyway. good luck with your choice. Whichever way you go, we're all here rooty toot tootin' you on! ♥
ReplyDeleteBeautiful possibility is at your door, and she is a'knockin'! (And I don't think I'll soon get over the idea of a "vaginal cookie"...thank you, thank you for that one...it has made my day).
ReplyDeleteOn the how many to transfer front, this is very, very tough one. I think your acupuncturist is right. But sometimes it's a tall order to even be still, far less to listen.
Hope the transfer goes ahead without a hitch.
ReplyDeleteOne or two, it depends on so many things.
We've been transferring two the last couple of times and I always end up worrying about twins right before testing day and ending up with nothing after. One is not linked to the other, but still it leaves a bitter taste.
So exciting, Tuesday is so soon!!! That is definitely a really difficult decision, we were back and forth on that one for a while too. The clinic we did our donor FET at also did vitrification which did increase their success rates.
ReplyDeleteYour acupuncturist is such a wise woman! Sending so much love and loads of positive thoughts your way for this FET ((hugs))
Wow.. so close.. best wishes for tuesday. On your decision for how many to transfer.. you will know in yourself what is right, your acu lady is right..xo
ReplyDeleteIt seems that I lost my earlier comment. By now you have made up your mind, and I trust that your acu gave great advice.
ReplyDeleteEeek, indeed! It's on Roccie! It's on.
Roccie! So much love and blessings for this cycle. It is close. I transferred two but it did have me on edge for sometime. Twins have their own complications, and one can always divide... But as you know, I am not one to talk. Desperation gets in the way. My baby is a frozen, a snow pea!! My fresh didn't work. There is something determined and stubborn about a snow pea.
ReplyDeleteYou are in my prayers.
Bring on baby pebbles!
I always say "more is better". :)
ReplyDeleteVaginal cookies? Thank you. I so needed a good belly laugh today! LOL!
I remember my RE telling me that transferring 1 vs 2 didn't make much of a difference as far as stats were concerned (at least at my clinic), with mom's age and IF diagnosis being more important factors. Well. Ain't that helpful. We always transferred everything we had: cycle 1=1 embryo, cycle 2=1 embryo, cycle 3=3 embryos. We had quality issues, as you can surmise. Luckily there was one good apple in the bunch on that third cycle. But I can say that A) my RE had recommended we do eSET from the start and B) on the third cycle we followed the RE's advice to transfer all 3 instead of 2 (as I was inclined to do). So if you really can't come to terms with 1 vs 2 (assuming 2 are getting thawed anyway), you could always let the RE decide for you. That's what you pay them the big bucks for, no?
ReplyDeleteGood Luck Roccie! Whatever you decide, I'll be rooting for you.
ReplyDeleteWow, Tuesday is just right around the corner! I will be thinking good thoughts for you and sending lots of sticky vibes your way.
ReplyDeleteRegarding the 1 vs 2 embryos choice, it's a tough one. MM and I have discussed this and agreed that we will transfer 2 when our time comes for our DE cycle. . . but we don't already have another child and would be OK with twins. Your situation is different.
Good luck with whatever you choose. (Oh, and by the way: I hate it when people tell me things like "be still and listen and you'll know the right choice." That's not how I roll, but if it works for you, great. :-) )
Tuesday, huh?!! Ooooooh! So exciting!
ReplyDeleteIs it just me or is it a sign itself?
Twos-day? The day of two? Maybe?!
Or maybe I'm the one who should just be still and listen instead of blabbering...
Whether it's one or two, in just a few days you will be PUPO with a little Rockette! Woohoo!
Love,
Maddy
Ah, our transfer is the same day! It must be lucky, right?!?!
ReplyDeleteWe are transfering two, but we were told our odds DID go up. from 30% with one to 50% with two. We have struggled with it, but decided 2 was right for us.
Good luck!!