Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Bleeding and cramping

Where do I start?  It hurt a lot.  I thought the pain was in my head and that I made everything about the pregnancy.  I ended up in an office with the door shut, laying on the floor while I waited for it to pass.

The blood started brown, then was bright red, then was coming on its own, even when I was not going to the bathroom.  It looked like a lot of blood.  So much blood, you couldn't believe it.

I have not miscarried as of this morning.  I went in for an ultrasound around 11.  The heartbeat is still at 134.  There is no sign of the source of bleeding.

My RE called in the afternoon.  She said bleeding was more common in FET cycles and with DE.  Something about the ovaries not being stimulated, tipping the whole system slightly out of touch.  Something about the endometrium.

I still feel cramps.  I thought cramps were supposed to be a horrible sign, maybe even worse than the bleeding.  She tells me they go hand in hand.  It is difficult to have bleeding without cramping.  

Bed rest until I am back for an ultrasound Friday.

Anyone have experience with this?  I hope no one can reply, but I thought I would ask.

I will take your prayers if you can spare them.
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47 comments:

  1. AnonymousApril 13, 2011 at 3:03 PM

    Sending you lots of hugs. I know bleeding, even heavy can be normal. I was not one of these, but I pray you are. Bubs heartrate is your comfort. Rest, rest, rest. Thinking of you....

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  2. My VegasApril 13, 2011 at 3:04 PM

    praying here...

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  3. siennaApril 13, 2011 at 3:06 PM

    jesus christ, you don't need this stress :o( i've heard that bleeding is more common with DE/FET's too, but don't have too much experience so sorry i'm no help. i *do* believe tho that the universe is just f-ing with your mind, but that everything is AOKAY. in fact, i shall *will it* to be so :o) stay in bed, have rocco spoil you silly, and hang in there till friday. will be thinking of you. xoxo.

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  4. NApril 13, 2011 at 3:09 PM

    On man. Not fun. I had cramping and bleeding with my first daughter (not IVF or FET) and then spotting for a long time. Pretty much every time I had sex, which promply stopped. She was fine but I was scared pooless. I'm crossing my fingers and anything else I can.

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  5. rebeccaApril 13, 2011 at 3:24 PM

    No, no, no...I'm so sorry to hear you're dealing with this terrible scare! Sending you so much love and definitely prayers & hope that the bleeding will subside and you'll receive reassuring news on Friday. I also had some bleeding early on with this FET donor embryo cycle and I was convinced it was all over, but as your doctor said just happens sometimes with these pregnancies. Hoping tomorrow goes by quickly I know how hard it is when you're waiting to find out if all is well ((hugs))

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  6. StacieApril 13, 2011 at 3:30 PM

    I am praying and will believe that your little one IS going to be okay. Do you hear that, universe? It WILL be!

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  7. ElphabaApril 13, 2011 at 3:32 PM

    I have no experience, but I'm sending you good thoughts. I hope everything is okay.

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  8. Melissa GApril 13, 2011 at 3:35 PM

    Prayers, prayers, and more prayers headed your way.

    I hate this for you...

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  9. SApril 13, 2011 at 3:43 PM

    Oh, I am sorry you are dealing with this. :-(

    I will be praying for you. And yes, I have also heard that DE pregnancies are more likely to have bleeding early on, for reasons no one is really sure of.

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  10. KellyApril 13, 2011 at 3:49 PM

    Oh no,, no. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't imagine how terrified you are.

    It's still a great, great sign that there's a strong heartbeat.

    I'm praying for both of you.

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  11. AugustaApril 13, 2011 at 4:03 PM

    Oh my Roccie. My heart breaks to know you've had to go through this. It is awful, awful terror.
    I have sought out stories of hope since my bleeding and cramping episode of Monday night, and have found many. It sounds common. Dr. Google says it's common. And heck, you and I have had this misery one or two days apart. So it does appear common, and not necessarily life-threatening to the embryo.

    I was home from work Tuesday and today (Wednesday) and I am thankful to have made those decisions. Tuesday was the day I just stabilized from my terror, and today was the day that I rested and got my confidence back. I can't wait to have my u/s on Tuesday. I hope, hope, hope that the bed rest will help you feel better. And dear god, may the bleeding and cramping stop. It was a great sign that the heart beat was found and that your wee one's heart is going strong. This is so scary. I'm glad you are ok right now, and scheduled to go back in on Friday for another scan.

    This is scary, but there are many reasons to be think that things will be ok. My prayers are with you, dear woman.

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  12. GurleeApril 13, 2011 at 4:23 PM

    Oh Roccie, how frightening. The heartbeat is reassuring, try to take it easy. My prayers are for you. I *believe* the little one is going to be just fine.

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  13. AnonymousApril 13, 2011 at 4:34 PM

    Roccie...oh dear Roccie! I totally believe what your RE is telling you is the gospel. Thank GOD your hb is SOOO incredibly strong...I mean seriously strong and that gives me huge reason to believe that all is okay. Still it sucks! Kick your feet up, drink lots of water and hope this nightmare will pass soon. Hugs Roccie...

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  14. nurslouisaApril 13, 2011 at 4:39 PM

    Oy vay! I'm so sorry to hear about the cramping and bleeding and will say a prayer for you and your little one. I had bleeding with my FET but that was in the 3Rd trimester. Hang in there bedrest can work!

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  15. heidiApril 13, 2011 at 4:48 PM

    I am so sorry you are having this happen. I had the same thing happen to me. My RE told me that about 50% of women in these cycles exp this. The pio shots are usually the cause. Mine continued until I stopped the pio. I will be thinking about you.

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  16. LuluApril 13, 2011 at 5:13 PM

    How scary. So glad you still have a heartbeat.

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  17. AnonymousApril 13, 2011 at 5:40 PM

    As long as blood is in the uterus you will have the cramping as it is so sensitive to the presence of blood. I am so sorry for you experiencing this scare. The heartbeat being strong is good news. Be assured that I will be praying for you -- lots! May He, God of the Universe, show you his compassion, and peace, and bring you through this latest episode in your uphill and emotional struggle. My heart aches for you experiencing this. You are so sensitive to others, it shows in your blog. We are here for you!

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  18. ASPApril 13, 2011 at 6:05 PM

    Oh, R, this sucks. I'm sure it's going to be a-okay but I'm going to send some duper prayers up for you. I'm going to have my Granny put you on her prayer list too. She rocks out with God like that. Please keep us posted. We all love you bunches! XXXXX

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  19. R.April 13, 2011 at 6:08 PM

    Praying hard for you.

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  20. cdgApril 13, 2011 at 6:35 PM

    oh no, I am so sorry to hear this. I am keeping you in my thoughts. hang in there and please take it easy. Sending much love to you

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  21. bibcApril 13, 2011 at 6:51 PM

    oh god. enough!!!
    im so sorry. im glad your doctor had reassurance and what sounds almost like answers for you! would have been nice to know beforehand? probably.
    hoping it quits. like now.
    xoxo
    lis

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  22. Mad HatterApril 13, 2011 at 7:24 PM

    Oh, man, Roccie! I wish you didn't have to experience any of this AND I wish doctors would tell their clients about these kinds of "common" things BEFORE they might happen to prepare someone....I see bibc just wrote that. Great minds. Take good care of you and rest and here's hoping it stops asap and all is well from here on in.
    Love,
    Maddy

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  23. Brave IVF GirlApril 13, 2011 at 7:38 PM

    I hate that you are going through this. As others have said, it is common, and plenty of healthy babies have been born after early bleeding. But it's terrifying, and I hope hope hope that everything continues to be ok!

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  24. Still A Guest RoomApril 13, 2011 at 7:50 PM

    My heart and prayers are with you. Hoping Friday brings good news.

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  25. CMCCApril 13, 2011 at 8:32 PM

    So sorry you are having to experience this but it is very common with FET and also with DE. I hope that the bleed stops over the next 12 hrs and you really take care to follow the bed rest. Friday is only a day away and I am praying that the ultrasound is just as great as it was today. Hang in there.

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  26. AnonymousApril 13, 2011 at 9:07 PM

    Just hugs and love and prayers and every good thought i've got for you. <3 <3 <3 <3

    KFC (because your blog won't let me post my link for some reason)

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  27. AnonymousApril 13, 2011 at 9:58 PM

    I love you I love you I love you. Holding steady till friday. <3

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  28. A Shadow of My Former SelfApril 13, 2011 at 10:34 PM

    Confirming several prayers sent your way. Hang tough until Friday.

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  29. AnonymousApril 14, 2011 at 12:37 AM

    Congrats on the good heartbeat and oh shit on the scary stuff. My fingers are crossed for you!

    I had a problem with bleeding and cramping at 12w from a degenerating fibroid. At the scan I'd had just 2 weeks before that there was no fibroid visible at all. Even on the day I went in for the bleeding and cramping, it took two doctors and two u/s techs analyzing differences between the older and new scans to find it. A few days of bathroom privileges only and six weeks of partial bedrest later, there have been no more issues with it. I really hope everything turns out okay for you too! (((hugs)))

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  30. lady pumpkinApril 14, 2011 at 5:05 AM

    Ugh, what a nightmare to have to go through. Why can't it all just be simple?? I know this will pass, but I wish it didn't have to have reared its ugly-ass head in the first place. Thinking of you lots and sending ute-calming, blood-ceasing energies your way. And love. Lots of it. It's almost Friday.

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  31. HopeBPatientApril 14, 2011 at 5:50 AM

    Ugh, this sounds awful. No experience here to share, but thinking of you and keeping all of my fingers and toes crossed that your little one's heartbeat keeps on strong.

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  32. Mrs. LemonApril 14, 2011 at 6:30 AM

    Hey Roccie! I have been bleeding off and on for the whole first trimester. First they thought it was the endometrin, then it turns out I have a subchorionic hematoma. The good news, generally harmless, the bad news...repeatedly scares the shit out of you! Breath, the heartbeat is there! Hugs to you.

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  33. mareApril 14, 2011 at 6:53 AM

    sending prayers and hugs.

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  34. bunnyApril 14, 2011 at 9:38 AM

    I am so glad you were able to have an ultrasound and that the little on is still there and thriving. I think this woman's experience and the comments people left her might be very encouraging: http://hope4joy.blogspot.com/2011/01/sch.html
    She started bleeding (though from a fresh cycle) soon after her first ultrasound as well. There are a bunch of stories there from other women who had similar experiences, and I am hoping they will help you. You have very good reason to be hopeful. Lots of love from Ohio.

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  35. Conceptionally ChallengedApril 14, 2011 at 11:06 AM

    Oh Roccie, how scary. I'm glad the u/s still showed a good heartbeat. Thinking of you.

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  36. AnonymousApril 14, 2011 at 11:42 AM

    Blargh. I'm so sorry. Sending hugs and vibes and all sorts of good stuff your way. Wishing you didn't have to go through this and wishing I could do something... but mostly wishing for great news from you tomorrow. xoxo

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  37. TippyApril 14, 2011 at 11:46 AM

    Oh god, how very scary for you!! I'm praying everyhing is fine. Hoping it resolves quickly and waiting for good news from you tomorrow. (Kathleen)

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  38. Lut C.April 14, 2011 at 1:15 PM

    How frightening! I'm thinking of you and hope it turns out to be nothing serious.

    Why does it have to be this hard?!

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  39. AdeleApril 14, 2011 at 3:46 PM

    I'm sending you bucketloads: of prayers, good thoughts, and hopefulness. It's a horrible sight, when you least need it. And I'm so sorry that you're on the razor's edge. The fact that your bean is hanging on, and has a nice strong heartbeat is, well, it's huge. And what I'm hoping is that you go in on Friday, that everything is completely alright and that this is just one of those crappy, horrible occurrences the doc chalks up to "one of those things". And one that you won't need to worry about from this point forward.

    Hugs, Roccie. There are a lot of us out here sending love your way.

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  40. AnonymousApril 14, 2011 at 5:25 PM

    Oh, Roccie. This, you don't need. Thinking of you and hoping for you...I'm not really one for praying, but if there was ever a time for it, this is it!

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  41. Good Egg HatchedApril 14, 2011 at 8:40 PM

    Yes -- had bleeding and cramping at eight weeks (subchorionic hematoma), pink spotting a few weeks later and then three days of bleeding at 28 weeks. Basically, the stress of bleeding during pregnancy takes years off your life, and I am very, very sorry you have to experience it. Here is what helped me when my hands shook as I held the phone with my doctor on the other end during my episode. She told me that the fate of the pregnancy was already sealed, and we were just spectators waiting to see what would happen. I don't know if this sounds cavalier to you, but for me in that moment it let me off the hook a bit. I hope hope hope that everything is okay on Friday -- I believe it will be. I know how crazy making this is. They really should warn you before you get pregnant how common bleeding is. Sending lots of good energy and thoughts.

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  42. lindaApril 14, 2011 at 8:57 PM

    Ok girl. You keep your ass in bed as long as you need to. I am thinking of you and have everything crossed that this damned bleeding stops so you can get on with this pregnancy.
    ((big hugs))

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  43. musicmakermommaApril 14, 2011 at 9:57 PM

    This could be ok, just lay there and think nurturing thoughts hon. This is exquisite torture, but I have heard of several people who had lots of bleeding early on and they went on to have live babies. Hang in there, thinking of you!

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  44. Dead Cow GirlApril 14, 2011 at 10:06 PM

    hugs. Just hugs.

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  45. AnonymousApril 15, 2011 at 5:03 AM

    Lots and lots of good thoughts, girl. One of my besties from HS had a good deal of bleeding during her DE cycle at the very beginning. Bed rest for a few days and all was well. She gave birth to her twins three weeks ago. All good energy coming your way! xoxo

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  46. SarahApril 15, 2011 at 10:39 AM

    Oh sweetie you are on my heart. I have read several blogs who had bleeding at the beginning of the pregnancy like his and everything was fine. One was JJ of reprojeans (at least I think she had bleeding. She had many issues) and the other is a friend of mine locally who blogs at http://emilystout2003.blogspot.com/

    Not sure if it helps, but they are a couple who still ended up with their sweet boys coming him.

    I will be thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers.

    xoxo

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  47. AdeleApril 15, 2011 at 10:52 AM

    Hoping, hoping, hoping like hell that today went great. x o

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