Friday, January 18, 2013

On line dating your recipient family

You know when it is right.  You know when someone takes words out of your head that you didn't know were there.  The exact words you want to hear but you don't know until you let them wash over you.

Even if I had a million requests for our embryos (we didn't), this family would be the right one for us.  I feel like I have found a friend I would have missed otherwise.

How does all this stuff fall together?  How is it that life can rip out your lungs and then make the sun shine on you from the inside?  Heavy shit and I wish I knew how to explain it.

I thought I wanted a more hands off relationship with my "recipient family".  But now, as they grow to become an extension of my own family, I cannot picture it any other way.

We will have an open relationship, but I will be able to manage the faucet that feeds me what I will always consider My Children.  I can soak in it or I can sip from it.  Some days will call for different actions, I can tell already.

How can I not look at them as My Children.  They are not mine by fate, by God's will, whatever.  I don't really get either one of those things.  But it could be that little face sitting at my table making the sign for more more more peaches.

Skype date next wk.  Shame I won't have my roots done, but I think they'll be fine with it.


  1. very very happy for you that you found the right home for your embryos! that is fantastic and I am sure you are relieved!

  2. So happy you made that love connection.

  3. Damn I hope the roots aren't a deal breaker. Glad this is going well. So glad.

  4. I'm glad you've found a family you are so comfortable with. Can't wait to hear how the Skype date goes!

  5. I'm so happy you found the right family to donate your embryos to. What an amazing gift you are giving them! I still don't know what we will do when the time comes. So glad to get this insight from you :)

  6. Oh I can't tell you how much this made my heart happy to read. We share a very similar relationship with our donor family and it is so amazing! It was the same for us, everything just felt perfectly and fell into place as it it were always to have been that incredible! Love to you guys and hope all continues to move forward smoothly