I have been all over the board telling people outside my family about donor eggs.
I have no problem telling complete strangers, including the checkout gal at Whole Foods. And Dominick's come to think of it. I must have a thing for cashiers: the bartender for the woman who cannot drink.
Some co-workers know, with varying degrees of success. Previously, any of them who know have been along for most of the mostly miserable ride.
I had practice telling my story last week to a co-worker I had sort of discounted as a pretty boy. I didn't think he had a lot of substance. (Don't I sound like a real joy to have as a co worker? Eek.) Turns out my man has a family by IVF - they suffered many misses before the hits. I told him my very abbreviated donor egg story and he got it.
I liked telling my story. I liked telling it in the hallway where someone just might over hear. I feel like a DE exhibitionist. This is the real deal and I get so geeked UP talking about it.
Rocco and I went to a party again this weekend. Twice in a season, remarkable, really. Guess what I was talking about?
My neighbor and I were swapping stories. She had her kids late, the last one at 40. Hey, neighbor, I am 40 as well. Knowing looks are exchanged. She tells me it was a challenge for them to get pregnant.
Well, you lead this horse to water and she is going to chug. Buuuuurp - there is my whole story sitting in her lap. I gotta say, she was hanging on every word. Asked for clarification in all the right places. Oohed and ahhed in a timely fashion.
It was positively thrilling to tell her. I told her no one in the neighborhood knew. She assured me it was not her story to tell. I don't think she said my "secret" was safe with her - that would kind of imply I had something to hide. She was good about it -- she got it too.
One of these days my kid is going to proclaim "I CAME FROM A SPECIAL EGG DID YOU COME FROM A SPECIAL EGG" at a gathering in front of a lot of people. Who knows the scenario, but I used to fear the sound of a record skipping at the end of all the tracks. I need someone to jump in and respond "yes, yes you did and it is very special" without missing a beat.
I think it will be easy to build that team of people to support him/her when it happens. I didn't realize I was holding my breath about it, but I was. Exhale. Ahhh......
Donor eggs. I love them.